Sorry for the late reply. Things have been pretty rough lately and, as a result, staff meetings have been taking much longer to complete than expected (killing much of my free time in the process). Anyway, on to my reply.
1.The essence of a Pose is hard to explain
It is, but can be done. Unfortunately, it's one of those things that will take much time to do and much effort to make sure that you're progressing in the right direction. Sadly, my time and resources are very limited so doing so would put more stress/burden on me than I need right now.
also you are bizarre and random in the best way
Thanks.....I think. 6(o_o)
2.I over-think things (something of a duh statement if you knew me in real life) and i should focus on the smaller matters rather than the whole (which though i am not the most persistent at it i have been doing for some time; approximate range of motion at each joint on the body, relative size and position of body parts, what some of the major influencing muscles are and why they are a major influence, etc...)
Since you seem to want to know things more in detail, then it would be best to study things piece-by-piece before slowly putting it all together. While this method isn't 100% guaranteed to work due to the fact that I don't know what learning methods work best for you, in the case that it doesn't I suggest trying to figure out what methods work best for you so that you can begin making the progress you are hoping for.
3. keep at it and over time you will get better ( true, but as i raised the question of no will or real desire to keep at it anymore, which also you only half of answered my question admittedly you answered the more useful half, though i will say having no friends that share my like of drawing or any goal other than to have fun with drawing again i seem to be in a different scenario than you)
Keeping at it is only one part of it. The biggest point about this is to figure out why you failed in the first place (though it's possible to do this by yourself, it generally works better if you have someone who can tell you what you're doing wrong and what needs to be fixed) and make the necessary effort to solve this problem. You may need to try something different/new in order to fix this, but it's through this that you will really begin to develop your skills. In addition, the more you do outside of the style that you've set as your goal, the more versatile of an artist you'll become.
The question of advice on not over thinking was first indirectly asked in my first post, and although i said i wanted a more artistic slant later on, if all the artistic slant you have is what you said before ( looking at the smaller details etc..) than ignore that comment and give me the best general 'don't over-think it' advice you have. over-thinking things is not all bad, but even if drawing is the only major victim, there are many much lesser victims than it. This leaves the bad out weighing the good in number if not severity.
The biggest problem you face, from what I've seen in this post and a few of your previous posts, is that you're getting tripped up by your over-thinking. Over-thinking is not a bad thing if it allows you to focus more on what you need to do to accomplish your goals, but when you're focusing on the wrong things and slowing down your progress/bringing it to a complete stop, that's when you really need to try to take a step back and simply let things flow. For an artist, failure is as just as necessary as practice; realizing why you failed and doing what you can to make sure you don't repeat your mistakes is the most important part of getting to your goal. Unfortunately, if you're getting too wrapped up in your errors and not getting the practice you need, you're not going to get anywhere.
One good thing is to get into the practice of seeing a picture through to the end. Even if it's awful in your mind, keep working on it and resist any urges to crumple it up and toss it into the trash. If you aren't able to finish it, then try to do as much as you can and post it online for people to critique. Using those critiques, continue working on the picture. Don't be surprised if it doesn't turn out like you had originally planned it to; not all things go according to plan and you'll likely find yourself adjusting the picture a lot before you finally finish. (Which is fine since this happens to a lot of artists regardless of whether they are beginner or professional.)
edit: Additional thought, isn't breaking things down into smaller parts the essence of over thinking, you break it down until you either cannot comprehend the scale, or till you cannot break it down any further and then use the resulting variables to deduce the solution
Sorry, I don't understand what you're saying.